Here’s a piece of advice I wish I had internalised a long time ago.
You don’t need everyone to like you.
That doesn’t mean you’ll stop caring when people reject you, and it doesn’t mean you should behave without consideration for orders, but you’ve got to recognise and manage your emotional response when you’ve been rejected or when someone has a problem with you for no apparent reason. I can guarantee that you also don’t like everyone because of your own set of values and sometimes for reasons you cannot rationalise or explain. Consider that we can’t hold people to a different standard to our own.
If you want to improve or change, that’s valid – but always, Be secure in yourself and trust your instincts. You can always change yourself to suit others, But it means a lot more if it’s coming from within. If you just chase approval from others, you’ll be skating on the surface of those deeper connections you want to have and it’s unfair to project excessive neediness to others.
Don’t forget about your core set of friends and support network when you’re feeling the sting a rejection or misalignment. There are people who like you as you are and will help you find your path.
When you can internally make peace and be secure with who you are, you’ll attract what you want into your life. Own your star power.